Q&A: Generational Trauma, Inner Child Work, and Spirit Support | S04.E13

In this solo Q&A episode of Small Medium at Large, Rebecca takes on some of the most tender questions she receives—from healing after abusive or absent parents to cutting ancestral cords, reparenting yourself, and supporting teens on their own inner journey. She explains what happens on the other side when our parents were deeply wounded and harmful in this life, and how we can very slowly and safely let in their spiritual support—without bypassing our pain or erasing what happened. Rebecca also walks through generational trauma, how to recognize patterns that didn’t start with you, and how to work with intention, ritual, and your spirit team to help heal the line. You’ll hear a grounded introduction to inner child work and Internal Family Systems (IFS), simple ways to start reparenting yourself day-to-day, and how to know where to even begin when it feels like everything needs healing. If you’ve ever wondered how to feel less alone with your story and more supported by spirit, this conversation is for you.

Five Key Points from the Episode:

1. What parents learn on the other side
   Rebecca shares how, in spirit, even deeply abusive or absent parents go through a life review, feel the impact of their actions, often experience deep regret, and frequently choose to become part of our spirit team—supporting our healing without excusing their behavior in this life.

2. Letting in support after abandonment—on your terms
   You don’t have to rush into forgiveness or connection. Rebecca emphasizes moving slowly, setting firm boundaries (even energetically), and starting with a tiny “drop” of openness only when it feels safe to you.

3. Healing generational trauma and “cutting cords” with love
   Instead of cutting off from your lineage entirely, Rebecca invites you to release the heavy patterns—scarcity, shame, addiction, abandonment, codependency—through awareness, intention, prayer, and ritual, so that the pain ends with you and love continues.

4. Reparenting and inner child work with IFS
   Using Internal Family Systems as a framework, Rebecca explains how to recognize protectors (like the perfectionist or people pleaser), gently meet the younger parts they’re guarding, and begin offering yourself the care, boundaries, and compassion you may not have received growing up.

5. Where to start when “everything” needs healing
   Instead of trying to fix every area of life at once, Rebecca encourages you to begin with the “low-hanging fruit”—the place of greatest pain, friction, or chaos right now—trusting that as you heal one area, the rest of your life and lineage begins to shift.