Are You the Helper in Your Life? How to Heal the Pattern with Katie Burke | S04.E15

If you’re the one everyone turns to — the strong one, the reliable one, the empath, the fixer, the helper — this episode is for you. Rebecca and her dear friend Katie Burke dive into what Rebecca calls the helper wound: the quiet pattern of overgiving, over-functioning, and putting everyone else first until you’re drained, resentful, or disconnected from yourself. Together they unpack why so many intuitive, caring people fall into this cycle, how it shows up in everyday life, and how to start healing it without closing your heart. Through personal stories, spiritual insights, and practical tools, this conversation helps you understand why you feel the way you feel — and how to finally create boundaries, listen to your own needs, and give from a place of fullness instead of exhaustion.

5 Key Points:

1. Why you always feel responsible for everyone else
   Rebecca and Katie unpack the deeper roots of being “the helper” — from soul contracts to old patterns — so you can finally understand why you take on so much and why it feels impossible to step back.

2. Signs you’re quietly burning out (even if you look “fine”)
   Through Katie’s honest examples, you’ll learn how to spot the early signs of depletion in yourself — the moments when your body, emotions, or mind are whispering that something needs to change.

3. The difference between helping from love and helping from fear
   You’ll learn how to tell when you’re giving because you genuinely want to… versus giving because you feel obligated, guilty, or afraid of disappointing someone.

4. Boundaries as a form of love — not rejection
   Rebecca and Katie share practical tools like the “soft no,” energy check-ins, and the mantra What’s mine to do? so you can support others without abandoning yourself.

5. How to shift from fixing others to truly supporting them
   Instead of stepping in to rescue, you’ll learn how to witness, hold space, and trust others to navigate their own lessons — creating more peace, balance, and emotional clarity for you.