In “Celebration” of My Dad’s 10-Year Death Anniversary…
On October 17th of this year, my family and I will be celebrating the 10-year anniversary of my dad’s death. While I realize “celebrating” may seem like an odd way to describe this day, it’s exactly what he and so many other spirits have expressed, to and through me, that they want for us to do – to celebrate their memory, rather than mourn their death. Those souls who died by suicide especially wish for us to find the same sense of inner peace – peace of mind and heart, despite the darkness and pain we have faced with their passing. These souls want us to focus on their true nature which is joy, light, and love. In doing so, it helps us to shift into this higher, happier space, once again.
I do believe there is a time and place to fully grieve a loved one’s death, and to keep it real, feeling the darkness and pain that is inevitable right after our loved one’s death, rather than doing a spiritual bypass. However, once we have moved through our own grieving process, it’s not only okay to let it go and move on, but it’s exactly what these deceased loved ones wish for us! There’s a great quote by Bob Marley that portrays this common message I hear so often from spirits: “Love the life you live; live the life you love.” These spirits want us to live fully and love completely the life we still have while in a body. In doing so, we help to redeem their karmic choice (be it conscious or not) in leaving this world. We help their soul to heal and evolve in the knowing that we are okay and not held back or burdened by their physical absence.
This is a tall order, I know, but I am living proof that it can be done. My dad took his life 10 years ago and it took me a couple of years and many spirit visitations from him to come to terms with it. My human self struggled, while my spiritual self knew all of these truths I teach and preach to so many. But once I did authentically make peace within, I felt nothing but love and appreciation for him and for his right to choose where he needed to be to heal and grow his soul. He has since helped me to connect many spirits who have also died by suicide with their living loved ones, bringing about a deep healing in the knowing they are well and resting in peace on the other side.
The greatest gift we can give these souls is to pick up the pieces when we are ready, and move forward with our lives. In that spirit (pun intended!), the best way I felt that I could honor his memory on his 10-year anniversary of his death was to do my “God-work” as he called it, helping others to have a profound experience of connecting with their deceased and finding their own authentic faith that the soul lives on long after the body has gone.
I have decided to do something special on the day and week of my dad’s anniversary: I’m creating a Small Group Reading to bring together a small circle of like-minded souls, both living and dead, who have experienced the loss of a loved one(s) to suicide. There is something magical that happens in my Small Group Readings as the spirits and guides above orchestrate us coming together to sit in a safe space where we can witness the powerful, healing messages that come through. And when we can relate to one another’s pain and struggle around the same topic—in this case suicide—it’s even more healing and transformative. We remember that we are not alone, both in this world and in spirit, which helps us to soften and open to receive the healing energies always available to us. If this speaks to you, I do hope you’ll join me in celebrating all those souls who have died by suicide, now expansive and free, and receiving the same healing light and love in return.