Making Room for Who We’re Becoming
My divorce is final, and I’m standing in the very hallway I’ve been talking about this season: one chapter has ended, and the next hasn’t taken shape yet. There are questions about my home, where Haven and I will live, and what relationships might look like in the future. My mind would love to solve all of it. But I’m learning that I can have desires without making every unknown an emergency. If you’re in a transition too, perhaps there’s room to notice who you are now—what you enjoy, what you miss, what feels peaceful—before asking that version of yourself to design an entirely new life.
One morning, after letting myself feel the grief, excitement, fear, and relief of this ending, I felt my dad come through during meditation. His message was familiar: relax and trust the process. Shortly afterward, I pulled back my comforter and found a dime, one of his signs for me. It didn’t tell me whether to sell my house or when love might arrive. It gave me reassurance. That distinction has stayed with me: sometimes I ask spirit for a plan and receive support instead. In this episode of Small Medium at Large, we explore what can happen when we allow that support to be enough for today, give ourselves time to integrate, and stay curious about what’s quietly inviting us forward.
Key Takeaways
We can want love, a new home, or a new direction without demanding that it arrive immediately.
Taking time to integrate an ending can help us recognize familiar patterns before choosing them again.
The dime I found reminded me that spiritual support can offer reassurance without giving us a detailed plan.
Noticing our preferences gives the person we’re becoming a voice in what comes next.
Inspired action and the urge to escape uncertainty can look similar; the feeling underneath deserves our attention.
Journaling and Meditation Questions
If this resonates, take these questions into your meditation or journaling this week:
Where am I rushing to fill space because I’m uncomfortable not knowing what’s next?
What might this space be giving me the opportunity to discover about myself?
If I didn’t need to decide anything today, what feels alive, interesting, peaceful, or quietly inviting me forward?