Love Without Holding On
After sharing my experience of our sacred transition, I knew there was another part of the story that belonged to Chris. When we sat down together, our intention wasn’t to dissect our marriage or decide who was right and who was wrong. We wanted to speak honestly about the healing journeys that brought us here. Chris’s dark night of the soul became a catalyst for profound change in both of us. As he began confronting the childhood wounds beneath his ambition and feelings of unworthiness, I was forced to turn the mirror toward myself. I saw how often I had confused love with rescuing, empathy with enmeshment, and keeping the peace with abandoning my own needs.
We came to understand that love does not always ask us to hold on. Sometimes it asks us to release one another with compassion so that each person can become more fully who they are meant to be. Letting go did not make our love unreal, nor did it mean our relationship had failed. We chose to see it as a meaningful completion—one that taught us about boundaries, accountability, emotional safety, and finding our source of stability within ourselves. The success of a relationship may not be measured only by how long it lasts, but also by how honestly we loved, how deeply we healed, and who we became because of it.
You can also explore soul contracts more deeply in What’s Your Heaven? and find support for your own transition through my Sacred Transition Meditation Series.